Are you being lifted higher?
Someone sent me a video this week of some bloopers. The actors were trying to film a short segment and they couldn’t get through it without hysterically laughing, shouting at each other, or messing up their script. It was hilarious!!! I was in bits. I was crying with laughter the whole way through. The energy, the emotion and the laughter was so contagious, even though I wasn’t there in person.
I imagine if I was subjected to this all day, every day, it would have the reverse effect, I would become totally irritated and would possibly get quite angry. Luckily I have the choice to delete the video so that won’t happen!
It’s powerful how such a small thing can influence your mood and completely change your state of mind.
What about in our real lives though? If you reflect on the people around you, do they lift you up or do they drag you down? Do they encourage you and challenge you to be your best self, do they bring you joy and laughter or are they an energy vacuum that leaves you feeling totally exhausted, uninspired, and negative about life?
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” - Jim Rohn
Who you spend your time with, is who you become. All of us surround ourselves with people that we have a connection with, we love them, respect them, we don’t want to disappoint them or have them think badly of us, we share a history that bonds us together. But does that always mean they will allow you to grow or are they dulling your shine?
I was shocked when I moved the Canada, started a whole new life, in a whole new country and met some of my closest friends. I never thought as a 30 year old, I would be meeting friends that I have such a close bond with. I guess I thought deep friendships were only possible when you had known someone since you were 4! But here I was with my new friends, knowing they totally understand me, they encourage me, they champion me in everything I do. They lift me higher. Especially on the days I don’t think I have any more to give. They believe in me without question!
Someone once said to me LOVE YOUR FAMILY. CHOOSE YOUR PEERS.
As you move towards your goals and closer towards your best life, make sure that you are surrounded by the people who support you AND challenge you along the way. We’re all pretty good at creating barriers for ourselves, you don’t need to invite others people into your circle who seem intent on making life tougher!
Be honest with your family and friends about what you are working towards right now and why. Tell them what they can do to support you in your journey. Make sure they understand how important it is to you. Be honest with yourself about anyone that might be holding you back or has a negative impact on your mindset. If you can’t remove those people from your life completely, minimise the amount of time you spend with them. They will hold you back if you let them.
You are here to thrive in your life, not just exist.
I am here to help you every step of the way, so let me know if you need to chat and how I can support!